"Friends are the siblings God never gave us"
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The theological note (“God”) is a revealing anachronism in translation, but it captures something Mencian: the sense that human relationships are not merely convenient alliances, but part of a moral design. Mencius’ larger project is to insist that humans are born with sprouts of virtue that can be cultivated. Friendship, in this framing, becomes a deliberate practice ground for those sprouts. Unlike family ties, which arrive preloaded with duty, friendships are selected, tested, revised. That makes them a more honest measure of character: you are seen, not assigned.
The subtext is also social. In the Warring States era, loyalty was a negotiable currency and households were frequently destabilized by war and politics. Elevating friends to “siblings” legitimizes networks of trust beyond the clan, a philosophical upgrade that’s also a survival strategy. It’s moral idealism with a clear-eyed view of how people actually endure.
Quote Details
| Topic | Friendship |
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| Source | Later attribution: The Founding Fathers at Odds: The Quasi-War - Volume I of... (William D. McEachern, 2023) modern compilationISBN: 9798885313018 · ID: 2wnHEAAAQBAJ
Evidence: ... Friends are the siblings God never gave us.” -Mencius In the world, many things are going on all the time and we who live do not know even a small fraction of what is truly going on. Men far away were spinning plans, taking steps ... Other candidates (1) Mencius (Mencius) compilation32.5% of right or wrong is the beginning of wisdom men have these four beginnings just |
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