"Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is"
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Morrison frames friendship as a kind of psychic backstage pass: the rare space where you don’t have to perform even your emotions. The line that lands hardest is the permission slip to be inconsistent - to feel deeply, to feel nothing, to be tender one hour and numb the next. That’s not sentimental; it’s almost confrontational. He’s pushing back against the way relationships quietly become contracts, where the price of closeness is emotional legibility and steady, palatable moods.
The subtext is classic Morrison: intimacy as liberation, not containment. Coming out of the late-60s counterculture - and living under a spotlight that rewarded mythmaking - he understood how quickly “being loved” can morph into being managed. Fans, lovers, friends: everyone has a preferred version of you. His “true friend” refuses that editorial power. They don’t demand a coherent narrative or a constant vibe. They don’t treat your interior life like a problem to solve or a spectacle to consume.
There’s also a darker undertone: a plea for amnesty. Morrison’s public persona was unruly, volatile, frequently self-destructive. In that context, “letting a person be what he really is” reads less like a Hallmark ideal than a justification for extremity - a hope that acceptance might substitute for accountability. The quote works because it’s both generous and risky: it defines love as noncoercion, while daring us to ask where freedom ends and enabling begins.
The subtext is classic Morrison: intimacy as liberation, not containment. Coming out of the late-60s counterculture - and living under a spotlight that rewarded mythmaking - he understood how quickly “being loved” can morph into being managed. Fans, lovers, friends: everyone has a preferred version of you. His “true friend” refuses that editorial power. They don’t demand a coherent narrative or a constant vibe. They don’t treat your interior life like a problem to solve or a spectacle to consume.
There’s also a darker undertone: a plea for amnesty. Morrison’s public persona was unruly, volatile, frequently self-destructive. In that context, “letting a person be what he really is” reads less like a Hallmark ideal than a justification for extremity - a hope that acceptance might substitute for accountability. The quote works because it’s both generous and risky: it defines love as noncoercion, while daring us to ask where freedom ends and enabling begins.
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| Topic | Friendship |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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