"Friendship increases in visiting friends, but in visiting them seldom"
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The subtext is tactical. “Seldom” preserves novelty, prevents the relationship from being spent like loose change, and keeps each encounter from becoming a transaction for comfort or status. It’s also a quiet rebuke to the courtly culture Bacon lived inside - a world of patronage, constant access-seeking, and friendships that could be indistinguishable from networking. In that environment, too much proximity wasn’t proof of devotion; it could be surveillance, leverage, or neediness. Distance becomes a form of respect, even self-defense.
What makes the sentence work is its compression of emotional truth into managerial logic. Bacon treats friendship as something you cultivate, not something you consume. The wit is that he’s praising presence while prescribing absence. Read now, it cuts against the always-available ethos of modern communication: constant pings that mimic closeness but can flatten it. Bacon’s advice isn’t to disappear; it’s to show up with intention, so the meeting still feels like a gift rather than routine.
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| Topic | Friendship |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Bacon, Francis. (2026, January 15). Friendship increases in visiting friends, but in visiting them seldom. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/friendship-increases-in-visiting-friends-but-in-6619/
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Bacon, Francis. "Friendship increases in visiting friends, but in visiting them seldom." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/friendship-increases-in-visiting-friends-but-in-6619/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Friendship increases in visiting friends, but in visiting them seldom." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/friendship-increases-in-visiting-friends-but-in-6619/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.









