"From infancy on, we are all spies; the shame is not this but that the secrets to be discovered are so paltry and few"
About this Quote
The snap comes in the pivot: "the shame is not this" - not the snooping, not the trespass - "but that the secrets to be discovered are so paltry and few". Updike’s real target is our grandiosity. We act as if others are vaults stuffed with shocking revelations, as if the ordinary life is a cover story. We hunt for hidden motives in lovers, parents, neighbors, celebrities, and end up finding the small stash: petty fears, predictable desires, the same few humiliations rearranged. The disappointment is existential, not moral.
This is classic Updike: a novelist of intimate interiors who both reveres and punctures them. He writes from a postwar American culture saturated with privacy (suburbs, closed doors, inner lives) and simultaneously obsessed with peeking behind them. The line flatters the reader’s intelligence - yes, you notice everything - then undercuts it: what you’ll uncover isn’t a conspiracy, it’s banality. The espionage is real; the payload isn’t.
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Updike, John. (2026, January 18). From infancy on, we are all spies; the shame is not this but that the secrets to be discovered are so paltry and few. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/from-infancy-on-we-are-all-spies-the-shame-is-not-2191/
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Updike, John. "From infancy on, we are all spies; the shame is not this but that the secrets to be discovered are so paltry and few." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/from-infancy-on-we-are-all-spies-the-shame-is-not-2191/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"From infancy on, we are all spies; the shame is not this but that the secrets to be discovered are so paltry and few." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/from-infancy-on-we-are-all-spies-the-shame-is-not-2191/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.








