"Gentlemen don't read each other's mail"
About this Quote
The line works because it weaponizes civility. "Gentlemen" is doing most of the labor here, turning surveillance into a breach of etiquette, not strategy. It reframes intelligence gathering as something faintly vulgar, like eavesdropping at a dinner party. "Each other's" implies symmetry and mutual decency, a fantasy of equal actors behaving well. "Mail" domesticates the act: not state secrets, not military plans, just private correspondence. The subtext is that some kinds of knowledge are illegitimate to possess, even if they might prevent catastrophe.
Context makes the irony bite. The interwar period was awash in idealism about arms control and diplomatic transparency, yet it was also a time when coded communications and emerging signals intelligence were becoming central to statecraft. Stimson’s formulation reflects an old-guard faith in formal diplomacy right as the world was moving toward total war and bureaucratized secrecy. The quote endures because it captures a recurring American temptation: to treat power politics as a character test. It’s a handsome sentiment, and a dangerously comforting one.
Quote Details
| Topic | Respect |
|---|---|
| Source | Unverified source: On Active Service in Peace and War (Henry L. Stimson, 1948)
Evidence: Stimson, as Secretary of State, was dealing as a gentleman with the gentlemen sent as ambassadors and ministers from friendly nations, and he is reputed to have said, "Gentlemen do not read each other's mail." (Page 188 (Chapter 7)). Earliest primary-source appearance I could verify is in Stimson... Other candidates (1) Deep Black: Sea of Terror (Stephen Coonts, William H. Keith, 2010) compilation95.0% ... Henry L. Stimson , President Hoover's Secretary of State , who shut down the State Department's cryptoanalytic of... |
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