"Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them"
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The subtext is classic midcentury American self-help theology: inner attitude produces outer results. Peale, a clergyman who popularized positive thinking, translates Christian neighbor-love into an actionable interpersonal hack. “Liking them” isn’t only moral generosity; it’s a lever that changes your face, voice, patience, and curiosity in ways other people read instantly. It also flatters the reader with agency: you don’t have to wait for approval; you can manufacture the conditions for it.
There’s a soft edge, though. The claim risks sounding transactional even as it denies being transactional. If liking others is primarily a method for getting them to like you, affection becomes instrumental, a kind of emotional ROI. Peale papers over that tension by casting the two as “other side” of the same coin, as if sincere interest and social reward naturally align. In a culture tilting toward salesmanship and upbeat self-control, that promise is the point: righteousness that also “works.”
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Peale, Norman Vincent. (2026, January 18). Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/getting-people-to-like-you-is-merely-the-other-1073/
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Peale, Norman Vincent. "Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/getting-people-to-like-you-is-merely-the-other-1073/.
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"Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/getting-people-to-like-you-is-merely-the-other-1073/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






