"Girls were born knowing how destructive the truth could be. They learned to hold it in, tamp it down, like gunpowder in an old fashioned gun. Then it exploded in your face on a November day in the rain"
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The metaphor does the real work. "Hold it in, tamp it down" borrows the physical ritual of loading an old gun, turning self-censorship into a practiced, bodily discipline. It's not just repression as a vague psychological state; it's repetitive labor. The "gunpowder" detail makes the stakes tactile and unstable: what you're compressing doesn't become safer, it becomes more dangerous. Fitch is pointing at a cultural bargain offered to girls and women - be palatable, be quiet, be manageable - and showing the hidden cost: the emotion doesn't disappear, it densifies.
Then comes the tonal snap: "Then it exploded in your face". The "your" implicates an intimate target, likely a lover, parent, or authority figure who benefited from the silence. The explosion isn't random; it's delayed consequence. And the specificity of "a November day in the rain" matters: November is end-of-year bleakness, rain is exposure, no shelter, no clean ending. Fitch situates the blast in ordinary weather to underline how these eruptions happen in real life, not in melodrama - a domestic reckoning that arrives when the pressure finally beats the container.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Fitch, Janet. (2026, January 11). Girls were born knowing how destructive the truth could be. They learned to hold it in, tamp it down, like gunpowder in an old fashioned gun. Then it exploded in your face on a November day in the rain. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/girls-were-born-knowing-how-destructive-the-truth-183846/
Chicago Style
Fitch, Janet. "Girls were born knowing how destructive the truth could be. They learned to hold it in, tamp it down, like gunpowder in an old fashioned gun. Then it exploded in your face on a November day in the rain." FixQuotes. January 11, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/girls-were-born-knowing-how-destructive-the-truth-183846/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Girls were born knowing how destructive the truth could be. They learned to hold it in, tamp it down, like gunpowder in an old fashioned gun. Then it exploded in your face on a November day in the rain." FixQuotes, 11 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/girls-were-born-knowing-how-destructive-the-truth-183846/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.








