"Give us grace and strength to forbear and to persevere. Give us courage and gaiety and the quiet mind, spare to us our friends, soften to us our enemies"
About this Quote
The most revealing pairing is “courage and gaiety.” Courage is the virtue everyone applauds; gaiety is the one that’s harder to justify when life is grinding you down. Stevenson insists they belong together. He’s not romanticizing cheerfulness as denial, but treating it as discipline: the choice to keep one’s spirit from becoming another casualty. Then he sharpens the request into something almost modern in its psychological clarity: “the quiet mind.” Not a triumphant mind, not a brilliant one - a mind not colonized by panic, resentment, or the ceaseless internal commentary that turns hardship into identity.
“Spare to us our friends” acknowledges how contingent consolation is; friends aren’t guaranteed, they’re granted. “Soften to us our enemies” is the slyest line: it doesn’t ask that enemies disappear, only that their edges dull enough for coexistence. The subtext is pragmatic mercy. Stevenson is less interested in moral purity than in livability: a life where endurance is sustained by lightness, and conflict is managed by tempering, not conquest.
Quote Details
| Topic | Prayer |
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| Source | Verified source: Prayers Written at Vailima (Robert Louis Stevenson, 1904)
Evidence: Give us grace and strength to forbear and to persevere. Offenders, give us the grace to accept and to forgive offenders. Forgetful ourselves, help us to bear cheerfully the forgetfulness of others. Give us courage and gaiety and the quiet mind. Spare to us our friends, soften to us our enemies. (p. 1 ("FOR SUCCESS")). This text appears in Robert Louis Stevenson’s "FOR SUCCESS" prayer in *Prayers Written at Vailima*. The Project Gutenberg transcription shows it on p. 1 of the prayer sequence. Although the Gutenberg HTML is transcribed from a later 1916 Chatto & Windus edition, independent bibliographic evidence indicates the prayers were first published as a collection in 1904 (posthumously). Therefore, the *first publication* for the quote (as part of this prayer text) is generally attributed to the 1904 Chatto & Windus publication of *Prayers Written at Vailima*, but the page number given here is from the 1916 setting/transcription. See also an antiquarian-books bibliographic note stating “first published in 1904.” Other candidates (1) Back to Joy (June Cotner, 2014) compilation97.8% ... Give us grace and strength to forbear and to persevere. Give us courage and gaiety and the quiet mind. Spare to u... |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Stevenson, Robert Louis. (2026, February 9). Give us grace and strength to forbear and to persevere. Give us courage and gaiety and the quiet mind, spare to us our friends, soften to us our enemies. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/give-us-grace-and-strength-to-forbear-and-to-1525/
Chicago Style
Stevenson, Robert Louis. "Give us grace and strength to forbear and to persevere. Give us courage and gaiety and the quiet mind, spare to us our friends, soften to us our enemies." FixQuotes. February 9, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/give-us-grace-and-strength-to-forbear-and-to-1525/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Give us grace and strength to forbear and to persevere. Give us courage and gaiety and the quiet mind, spare to us our friends, soften to us our enemies." FixQuotes, 9 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/give-us-grace-and-strength-to-forbear-and-to-1525/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.










