"Grief is like a moving river, so that's what I mean by it's always changing. It's a strange thing to say because I'm at heart an optimistic person, but I would say in some ways it just gets worse. It's just that the more time that passes, the more you miss someone"
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The real sting is the pivot: "I'm at heart an optimistic person, but..". That clause performs the cultural negotiation she's trapped in. Optimism is treated like a personality brand, a required credential for public-facing women in particular. Williams uses it as a shield, then admits what optimism can't domesticate: grief can intensify. Not as melodrama, but as arithmetic. The longer a person is gone, the more life happens without them, and absence accumulates like compound interest.
When she says "it just gets worse", she's also challenging the therapeutic script that encourages "closure" and celebrates resilience as an endpoint. Her subtext is less despair than fidelity. Missing someone more over time isn't failure; it's evidence of a bond that keeps finding new places to echo. That lands because it refuses consolation without refusing life. It's the voice of someone who understands that grief doesn't only mark what was lost; it marks what continues, stubbornly, to matter.
As an actress speaking publicly, the candor carries extra weight: she's making space for a messier emotional reality in a culture that prefers inspirational aftercare to ongoing mourning.
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Williams, Michelle. (n.d.). Grief is like a moving river, so that's what I mean by it's always changing. It's a strange thing to say because I'm at heart an optimistic person, but I would say in some ways it just gets worse. It's just that the more time that passes, the more you miss someone. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/grief-is-like-a-moving-river-so-thats-what-i-mean-21867/
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Williams, Michelle. "Grief is like a moving river, so that's what I mean by it's always changing. It's a strange thing to say because I'm at heart an optimistic person, but I would say in some ways it just gets worse. It's just that the more time that passes, the more you miss someone." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/grief-is-like-a-moving-river-so-thats-what-i-mean-21867/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Grief is like a moving river, so that's what I mean by it's always changing. It's a strange thing to say because I'm at heart an optimistic person, but I would say in some ways it just gets worse. It's just that the more time that passes, the more you miss someone." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/grief-is-like-a-moving-river-so-thats-what-i-mean-21867/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.








