"Group conformity scares the pants off me because it's so often a prelude to cruelty towards anyone who doesn't want to - or can't - join the Big Parade"
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Her real target is the seductive comfort of belonging. “Group conformity” sounds harmless until she frames it as a “prelude to cruelty,” a phrase that treats social pressure not as etiquette but as choreography for harm. The cruelty isn’t random; it’s procedural. First comes the invitation to comply, then the permission structure to punish anyone who won’t or can’t. That “can’t” matters. Midler isn’t only defending the contrarian; she’s pointing to the people structurally excluded by the terms of membership: the odd, the disabled, the poor, the queer, the outspoken, the socially awkward - anyone for whom “just join in” is a lie.
“Big Parade” is the masterstroke: conformity as pageant, the kind of public celebration that doubles as a loyalty test. Parades are noisy, patriotic, wholesome - and that’s the danger. They make coercion feel like festivity. Coming from an actress who built a career on outsized individuality and camp defiance, the context is showbiz and politics at once: a reminder that mass applause can be indistinguishable from a mob warming up. The intent isn’t to reject community; it’s to expose how quickly community becomes a costume department for exclusion.
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| Topic | Human Rights |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Midler, Bette. (2026, January 17). Group conformity scares the pants off me because it's so often a prelude to cruelty towards anyone who doesn't want to - or can't - join the Big Parade. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/group-conformity-scares-the-pants-off-me-because-47878/
Chicago Style
Midler, Bette. "Group conformity scares the pants off me because it's so often a prelude to cruelty towards anyone who doesn't want to - or can't - join the Big Parade." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/group-conformity-scares-the-pants-off-me-because-47878/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Group conformity scares the pants off me because it's so often a prelude to cruelty towards anyone who doesn't want to - or can't - join the Big Parade." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/group-conformity-scares-the-pants-off-me-because-47878/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





