"Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you"
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The intent isn’t to sanctify passivity so much as to indict a certain kind of striving. Hawthorne, steeped in Puritan moral accounting and the psychic fallout of guilt, understands how easily desire becomes self-surveillance. When you “pursue,” you’re not just moving; you’re measuring, grasping, narrating your own success in real time. That mindset breeds scarcity: happiness is “always just beyond your grasp” because the chase trains you to experience the present as insufficient.
The subtext is almost psychological: attention changes the object. Chase happiness and you convert it into an achievement, which makes it brittle and conditional. Sit “quietly” and you stop turning your inner life into a project plan; happiness can arrive as a byproduct rather than a trophy.
Context matters. Hawthorne’s fiction is crowded with characters undone by obsession, moral vanity, and the need to force outcomes - think of the way fixation in his worlds curdles into punishment. The line reads like a small rebuke to the Protestant work ethic’s emotional offshoot: if you try to deserve joy too aggressively, you’ll scare it off.
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| Topic | Happiness |
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| Source | Later attribution: 101 Timeless Secrets from History's Greatest Minds (Key t... (Namaskar Books, 2024) modern compilationID: 1-4wEQAAQBAJ
Evidence: Demanding Ebook Book Namaskar Books. Nathaniel. Hawthorne. (1804-1864). “Happiness is a butterfly which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.” Nathaniel Hawthorne's ... Other candidates (1) Daily Crescent: "A Chapter of Definitions" (Nathaniel Hawthorne, 1848)50.0% HAPPINESS., A butterfly, which when pursued, seems always just beyond your grasp; but if you sit down quietly, may al... |
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"Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you." FixQuotes, 14 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/happiness-is-a-butterfly-which-when-pursued-is-83173/. Accessed 17 Feb. 2026.







