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Life & Wisdom Quote by Milan Kundera

"Hate traps us by binding us too tightly to our adversary"

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Hate, in Kundera's framing, is less a weapon than a handcuff. The sentence pivots on an unexpectedly intimate verb: binding. It suggests proximity, not distance; devotion, not disdain. You can only be "trapped" if your opponent has become structurally necessary to your inner life, if your identity is organized around resistance. That is the quiet cruelty of hate here: it offers the rush of moral clarity while smuggling in dependence.

Kundera, a novelist of entanglements and ironies, knows how emotions become political technologies. Coming out of a Central European landscape shaped by occupation, ideological policing, and the long afterlife of betrayal, he watched systems survive by recruiting feelings that feel righteous. Hate is convenient because it simplifies the world into a single face. Yet that simplification costs you freedom: it narrows your imagination to whatever keeps the adversary in frame. Even victory can be contaminated, because the triumph you seek is still measured in their terms.

The subtext is almost therapeutic but never sentimental: hatred is a form of self-forgetting disguised as engagement. It crowds out curiosity, eroticism, humor, contradiction - the messy materials Kundera prizes because they keep a person unowned. The line also carries a novelist's warning about narrative. When you hate, you let someone else become your plot. Your days start to rhyme with theirs. You become legible, predictable, governable.

Kundera's sly sting is that hate doesn't just dehumanize the other. It de-authorizes the self.

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Kundera, Milan. (2026, January 14). Hate traps us by binding us too tightly to our adversary. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/hate-traps-us-by-binding-us-too-tightly-to-our-162946/

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Milan Kundera (April 1, 1929 - July 11, 2023) was a Writer from Czech Republic.

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