"Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts"
About this Quote
“And a temper that never tires” shifts from feeling to stamina. Compassion, Dickens implies, is exhausting; it’s easier to be briefly moved than to stay just and patient when you’re provoked, overworked, or disappointed. The subtext is pointedly unromantic: goodness is not a mood, it’s endurance under pressure.
Then he lands on “a touch that never hurts,” the most intimate and socially alert phrase. “Touch” is gentler than “hand” or “word,” but it carries physical, emotional, and institutional force: how you correct, how you joke, how you punish, how you manage the people beneath you. Dickens knew that cruelty often arrives as casual contact - the offhand humiliation, the bureaucratic shove, the parental snap.
The sentence works because it refuses heroic virtue and targets the everyday mechanics of harm. It’s a compact Dickensian rebuttal to a culture that called hardness maturity and called tiredness an excuse.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Dickens, Charles. (2026, January 14). Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/have-a-heart-that-never-hardens-and-a-temper-that-14329/
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Dickens, Charles. "Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/have-a-heart-that-never-hardens-and-a-temper-that-14329/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/have-a-heart-that-never-hardens-and-a-temper-that-14329/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.









