"Have you learned the lessons only of those who admired you, and were tender with you, and stood aside for you? Have you not learned great lessons from those who braced themselves against you, and disputed passage with you?"
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The intent is democratic and unsentimental. Whitman is often remembered as the great celebrant of the self, but here he’s writing a corrective to self-mythology. Praise can be a kind of anesthesia; opposition wakes you up. The subtext is especially sharp for a poet whose project was to speak as and for a nation: a society that only learns from allies becomes brittle, convinced of its virtue, untested by argument. “Disputed passage” hints at politics, at the grind of pluralism, at the necessity of being checked by others if you want your convictions to be more than mood.
Context matters: Whitman lived through America’s most catastrophic dispute, the Civil War, and watched the country relearn itself through conflict and suffering. In that light, the line isn’t a Hallmark ode to “haters.” It’s a hard-edged theory of development: resistance is not merely an obstacle; it is the pressure that reveals whether you’re moving with purpose or just being carried.
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Whitman, Walt. (2026, January 15). Have you learned the lessons only of those who admired you, and were tender with you, and stood aside for you? Have you not learned great lessons from those who braced themselves against you, and disputed passage with you? FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/have-you-learned-the-lessons-only-of-those-who-26784/
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Whitman, Walt. "Have you learned the lessons only of those who admired you, and were tender with you, and stood aside for you? Have you not learned great lessons from those who braced themselves against you, and disputed passage with you?" FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/have-you-learned-the-lessons-only-of-those-who-26784/.
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"Have you learned the lessons only of those who admired you, and were tender with you, and stood aside for you? Have you not learned great lessons from those who braced themselves against you, and disputed passage with you?" FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/have-you-learned-the-lessons-only-of-those-who-26784/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.







