"He that communicates his secret to another makes himself that other's slave"
About this Quote
The intent is tactical. Sharing a secret feels like intimacy, but it also creates leverage. The listener now holds a piece of your story you can't fully control: they can trade it, weaponize it, or simply let it shape how they see you. Even if they never speak, your imagination does the coercion for them. You anticipate their judgment, you manage their reactions, you adjust your behavior to keep the secret safe. That's the "slave" part: the dependency isn't enforced by chains but by anxiety and asymmetry.
Subtextually, Gracian punctures the romantic idea that trust is pure. He suggests that vulnerability is rarely neutral in hierarchical settings; it's a gamble where the house is human nature. His phrasing is deliberately absolute - "makes himself" pins responsibility on the speaker. You weren't betrayed; you ceded control.
Read now, it sounds like a primer for the group chat era, where disclosure is social glue and screenshots are always implied. Gracian's cynicism survives because it isn't about paranoia; it's about incentives. Secrets don't just reveal who you are. They create who has power over you.
Quote Details
| Topic | Wisdom |
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| Source | Baltasar Gracián, The Art of Worldly Wisdom (Oraculo manual y arte de prudencia), 1647 — aphorism in his collection of maxims; appears in English translations of Gracián's aphorisms. |
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Gracian, Baltasar. (2026, January 17). He that communicates his secret to another makes himself that other's slave. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/he-that-communicates-his-secret-to-another-makes-38546/
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Gracian, Baltasar. "He that communicates his secret to another makes himself that other's slave." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/he-that-communicates-his-secret-to-another-makes-38546/.
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"He that communicates his secret to another makes himself that other's slave." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/he-that-communicates-his-secret-to-another-makes-38546/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.















