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Daily Inspiration Quote by Saint Augustine

"He that is jealous is not in love"

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Jealousy, Augustine suggests, is a confession of misdirected desire: you want possession, not communion. The line lands with the cold clarity of a moral diagnosis. It refuses the romantic alibi that jealousy is proof of depth, flipping the script so that suspicion becomes evidence of love's absence. That reversal is the engine of its power. It shames the familiar drama of "I only act this way because I care" by exposing the ego hiding underneath: the jealous person is preoccupied less with the beloved's good than with their own status, security, and control.

The subtext is theological as much as relational. Augustine is a thinker who distrusts disordered love, the way the heart latches onto finite things and demands they behave like God: constant, loyal, never threatening abandonment. Jealousy is what happens when love becomes anxious attachment to a creature, when the beloved is treated as a safeguard against loneliness or humiliation. In that sense, jealousy isn't love intensified; it's love corrupted into fear. It reveals an imagination trained on loss and rivalry, not on the other's flourishing.

Context matters: Augustine writes out of a world where desire, marriage, chastity, and spiritual fidelity were serious civic and cosmic concerns, not lifestyle choices. His Christianity pushes love toward charity: a willing of the good that doesn't depend on ownership. Read that way, the line isn't naive about pain or betrayal. It's polemical. It's Augustine drawing a hard boundary between love as gift and love as claim.

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Saint Augustine (November 13, 354 - August 28, 430) was a Saint from Rome.

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