"He was just trying to tease me - I knew that later - but he said he'd have to leave because it wasn't fair to have anyone in the room who was going to make fun of what he had to say. He had a good sense of humor, really"
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Her phrasing sketches a classic social trap, especially familiar to women in entertainment’s old hierarchies. If you push back, you’re humorless; if you laugh along, you consent to being diminished. The man’s complaint - that he can’t speak freely if he might be mocked - is a tidy reversal, shifting him into the role of vulnerable truth-teller and her into the role of heckler. It’s a preemptive demand for deference, disguised as sensitivity.
Then comes the kicker: “He had a good sense of humor, really.” The “really” reads like a practiced softener, the kind that keeps the story tellable without turning it into an accusation. Wray preserves his likability while quietly recording the mechanics of intimidation-by-charm. In a business built on managing egos, that’s not naivete; it’s strategy, and it reveals how often “humor” operates as social cover for control.
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| Topic | Funny Friendship |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Wray, Fay. (2026, January 17). He was just trying to tease me - I knew that later - but he said he'd have to leave because it wasn't fair to have anyone in the room who was going to make fun of what he had to say. He had a good sense of humor, really. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/he-was-just-trying-to-tease-me-i-knew-that-60175/
Chicago Style
Wray, Fay. "He was just trying to tease me - I knew that later - but he said he'd have to leave because it wasn't fair to have anyone in the room who was going to make fun of what he had to say. He had a good sense of humor, really." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/he-was-just-trying-to-tease-me-i-knew-that-60175/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"He was just trying to tease me - I knew that later - but he said he'd have to leave because it wasn't fair to have anyone in the room who was going to make fun of what he had to say. He had a good sense of humor, really." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/he-was-just-trying-to-tease-me-i-knew-that-60175/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.





