"He who loves with purity considers not the gift of the lover, but the love of the giver"
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The subtext is spiritual and frankly suspicious of human motives. Kempis, steeped in the devotional tradition of The Imitation of Christ, is training the reader to prefer intention over outcome, sincerity over spectacle. He’s also warning against the ego’s hunger to be validated. If you demand gifts, you’re not just asking for generosity; you’re asking to be made secure, to be ranked, to be chosen in a way you can point to. That’s how attachment disguises itself as romance.
The line works because it’s austere. It doesn’t flatter the reader with “you deserve more.” It asks for a sharper discipline: to love without leveraging, to receive without collecting receipts. In modern terms, it’s an argument against performative affection and for a kind of relational literacy that reads the person, not the prop. Kempis isn’t condemning gifts; he’s demoting them. The point is to keep love from being reduced to evidence.
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| Topic | Love |
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Kempis, Thomas. (2026, January 15). He who loves with purity considers not the gift of the lover, but the love of the giver. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/he-who-loves-with-purity-considers-not-the-gift-3905/
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Kempis, Thomas. "He who loves with purity considers not the gift of the lover, but the love of the giver." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/he-who-loves-with-purity-considers-not-the-gift-3905/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"He who loves with purity considers not the gift of the lover, but the love of the giver." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/he-who-loves-with-purity-considers-not-the-gift-3905/. Accessed 22 Feb. 2026.










