"He who observes etiquette but objects to lying is like someone who dresses fashionably but wears no vest"
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Benjamin’s line lands like a well-aimed insult disguised as a parable: if you’re meticulous about social form but squeamish about deception, you’re missing the structural layer that makes the whole outfit hang together. The “vest” is doing sly double duty. It’s both an undergarment (hidden, intimate, not displayed) and a sign of bourgeois completeness. Etiquette, in this view, is the visible suit; lying is the concealed garment that actually keeps the public silhouette smooth.
The intent isn’t to praise lying as a moral good. It’s to expose how “good manners” function as a technology of social life: they manage friction, protect status, and keep the machinery of class relations from grinding audibly. Etiquette is sold as virtue, but Benjamin points to its dependence on small fictions - flattering omissions, performative warmth, strategic silence. Objecting to lying while clinging to etiquette becomes a kind of naive purism: insisting on clean hands while continuing to participate in dirty systems.
Context matters. Benjamin, a Marxist-inflected critic of modernity, wrote amid the collapse of old European social orders and the rise of mass politics, propaganda, and bureaucratic life. In that landscape, the polite surface isn’t a refuge from falsehood; it’s one of falsehood’s most refined instruments. The cynicism bites because it’s observational, not merely contrarian: social “decency” often isn’t the opposite of deceit but its most elegant costume.
The intent isn’t to praise lying as a moral good. It’s to expose how “good manners” function as a technology of social life: they manage friction, protect status, and keep the machinery of class relations from grinding audibly. Etiquette is sold as virtue, but Benjamin points to its dependence on small fictions - flattering omissions, performative warmth, strategic silence. Objecting to lying while clinging to etiquette becomes a kind of naive purism: insisting on clean hands while continuing to participate in dirty systems.
Context matters. Benjamin, a Marxist-inflected critic of modernity, wrote amid the collapse of old European social orders and the rise of mass politics, propaganda, and bureaucratic life. In that landscape, the polite surface isn’t a refuge from falsehood; it’s one of falsehood’s most refined instruments. The cynicism bites because it’s observational, not merely contrarian: social “decency” often isn’t the opposite of deceit but its most elegant costume.
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| Topic | Honesty & Integrity |
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