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Motherhood Quote by Anna Quindlen

"Here is the real domino theory - gay man to gay man, bisexual man to straight woman, addict mother to newborn baby, they all fall down and someday it will come to you"

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Quindlen hijacks a Cold War catchphrase and makes it intimate, bodily, and impossible to quarantine. The original “domino theory” was geopolitical paranoia dressed up as strategy: if one country “falls,” the rest must follow. Her “real domino theory” flips the vector from ideology to vulnerability. Instead of nations toppling, she lists chains of contact and inheritance: gay man to gay man, bisexual man to straight woman, addict mother to newborn. The point isn’t sensational linkage; it’s the exposure of a moral fantasy that some lives are separable.

The syntax does the work. Those compressed pairings read like contact tracing, but also like gossip - the kind of rumor that makes epidemics feel like punishment meted out to “them.” Quindlen weaponizes that rhythm and then turns it on the reader: “someday it will come to you.” That closing threat isn’t cruelty; it’s a demand for empathy by force, aimed at audiences who treated AIDS and addiction as compartmentalized problems belonging to stigmatized communities.

Context matters: Quindlen came of age as a columnist during the AIDS crisis, when public discourse often tried to cordon off risk along lines of sexuality, respectability, and blame. By including the newborn, she punctures the comforting story that suffering is earned. The subtext is a critique of American individualism at its most punitive: we love personal responsibility right up until biology, love, and dependence reveal how porous we are. Her warning insists that public health and compassion aren’t charity. They’re self-preservation in a world where “other people’s” crises don’t stay politely contained.

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Quindlen, Anna. (2026, January 18). Here is the real domino theory - gay man to gay man, bisexual man to straight woman, addict mother to newborn baby, they all fall down and someday it will come to you. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/here-is-the-real-domino-theory-gay-man-to-gay-1304/

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Quindlen, Anna. "Here is the real domino theory - gay man to gay man, bisexual man to straight woman, addict mother to newborn baby, they all fall down and someday it will come to you." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/here-is-the-real-domino-theory-gay-man-to-gay-1304/.

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"Here is the real domino theory - gay man to gay man, bisexual man to straight woman, addict mother to newborn baby, they all fall down and someday it will come to you." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/here-is-the-real-domino-theory-gay-man-to-gay-1304/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Anna Quindlen

Anna Quindlen (born July 8, 1952) is a Journalist from USA.

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