"He's nice enough not to want to be associated with a nasty remark but not nice enough not to make it. Lacking the courage of one's nastiness does not make one nice"
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The construction is a trapdoor. “Nice enough” arrives twice, each time narrowing the moral space until there’s nowhere to stand. First, the speaker won’t be “associated” with the remark, suggesting a keen awareness of reputational fallout. Second, he’s still “not nice enough not to make it,” meaning the impulse to wound outruns whatever conscience he claims. Kinsley’s kicker - “Lacking the courage of one’s nastiness does not make one nice” - flips a familiar defense. People often equate shame with goodness, as if feeling bad (or fearing backlash) absolves the act. Kinsley insists shame can be pure self-protection.
The context is the media ecosystem Kinsley knows best: politics, punditry, and professional opinion-making, where barbs are currency and plausible deniability is a career skill. It’s a warning about how “civility” rhetoric can launder aggression, letting people weaponize politeness while still doing the damage. Nice isn’t refusing to be seen as nasty; it’s refusing to be nasty in the first place.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Kinsley, Michael. (2026, January 17). He's nice enough not to want to be associated with a nasty remark but not nice enough not to make it. Lacking the courage of one's nastiness does not make one nice. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/hes-nice-enough-not-to-want-to-be-associated-with-80122/
Chicago Style
Kinsley, Michael. "He's nice enough not to want to be associated with a nasty remark but not nice enough not to make it. Lacking the courage of one's nastiness does not make one nice." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/hes-nice-enough-not-to-want-to-be-associated-with-80122/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"He's nice enough not to want to be associated with a nasty remark but not nice enough not to make it. Lacking the courage of one's nastiness does not make one nice." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/hes-nice-enough-not-to-want-to-be-associated-with-80122/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.











