"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned"
About this Quote
The specific intent is less "be nice" than "be strategic about your own suffering". In Buddhist terms, anger is one of the kleshas, the afflictive states that cloud perception and multiply dukkha. The subtext is that vengeance is often a fantasy of control: you imagine a future moment of satisfaction while ignoring the present moment of combustion in your palm. By choosing a coal, not a sword, the line also undercuts the glamour of rage. Anger isn't heroic; it's messy, reflexive, and indiscriminate. Heat doesn't care who "deserves" it.
Context matters: early Buddhist teaching is aimed at liberation through disciplined attention, not moral posturing. This simile functions like a pocket meditation instruction. Notice the sensation, notice the cost, release. It doesn't deny wrongdoing; it denies anger's claim to be a useful courier of justice.
Quote Details
| Topic | Anger |
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Buddha. (2026, January 18). Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/holding-on-to-anger-is-like-grasping-a-hot-coal-22164/
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Buddha. "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/holding-on-to-anger-is-like-grasping-a-hot-coal-22164/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/holding-on-to-anger-is-like-grasping-a-hot-coal-22164/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.












