"Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life"
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The intent is persuasive, almost consumer-friendly: stop “holding on” because it costs you. Resentment isn’t framed as morally wrong; it’s framed as inefficient. By locating harm in the jaw and shoulders, she sidesteps the thornier question of whether someone deserves forgiveness. The subtext is, “You can’t control what happened, but you can control what it’s doing to you.” That’s a staple of self-help culture, but Lunden gives it a tactile hook that makes the advice feel less like therapy-speak and more like everyday common sense.
“Gives you back the laughter and the lightness” finishes the pitch with a lifestyle promise: forgiveness as a return to a version of yourself you miss. It’s not justice, reconciliation, or amnesia - it’s relief. In a media ecosystem built on keeping audiences calm enough to keep watching, forgiveness becomes a self-protective act, a way to reclaim your body and your mood from someone else’s bad moment.
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| Topic | Forgiveness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lunden, Joan. (2026, January 16). Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/holding-on-to-anger-resentment-and-hurt-only-113437/
Chicago Style
Lunden, Joan. "Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/holding-on-to-anger-resentment-and-hurt-only-113437/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/holding-on-to-anger-resentment-and-hurt-only-113437/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





