"Honesty is the cruelest game of all, because not only can you hurt someone - and hurt them to the bone - you can feel self-righteous about it at the same time"
About this Quote
The line understands a particular kind of cruelty familiar to tight-knit communities and artistic circles: the critique disguised as candor, the breakup speech delivered like a manifesto, the "I’m just being real" confession that functions as a performance of bravery. "Hurt them to the bone" is visceral, intimate damage - the kind that lands because the honest person knows exactly where to aim. That knowledge is what makes the act less innocent than it pretends to be.
Self-righteousness is the kicker. Van Ronk points at the emotional payoff honesty can provide: the glow of integrity, the sense of being above sentimentality, the pleasure of calling yourself principled while someone else bleeds. Subtext: truth without care becomes a weapon, and the person wielding it can mistake their lack of restraint for courage.
In the broader cultural context of folk revival earnestness, it’s also a warning against sanctifying bluntness as authenticity. Honesty isn’t automatically ethical; it’s a tool. The ethics live in why you’re using it, and what you’re willing to take responsibility for after it lands.
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| Topic | Honesty & Integrity |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Ronk, Dave Van. (2026, January 17). Honesty is the cruelest game of all, because not only can you hurt someone - and hurt them to the bone - you can feel self-righteous about it at the same time. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/honesty-is-the-cruelest-game-of-all-because-not-65683/
Chicago Style
Ronk, Dave Van. "Honesty is the cruelest game of all, because not only can you hurt someone - and hurt them to the bone - you can feel self-righteous about it at the same time." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/honesty-is-the-cruelest-game-of-all-because-not-65683/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Honesty is the cruelest game of all, because not only can you hurt someone - and hurt them to the bone - you can feel self-righteous about it at the same time." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/honesty-is-the-cruelest-game-of-all-because-not-65683/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









