"How do you know love is gone? If you said that you would be there at seven and you get there by nine, and he or she has not called the police yet - it's gone"
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Dietrich’s line works because it weaponizes timing, turning romance into a tiny social experiment. It’s also slyly modern: the relationship is audited through behavior and logistics, not sentiment. Her standard for love is almost transactional - show up, be accountable, be missed - yet it lands as strangely tender. To be loved is to be tracked, not in a controlling way, but in the fundamental sense of being woven into someone’s sense of safety and routine.
There’s an implied critique of romantic grandstanding here, which fits Dietrich’s public persona: glamorous, self-possessed, allergic to melodrama. She delivers an idea of love stripped of poetry and padded with realism, the kind learned in a life where desire and performance constantly blur. The subtext is merciless: when the stakes of your disappearance drop to zero, the relationship hasn’t exploded. It has simply stopped mattering.
Quote Details
| Topic | Heartbreak |
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| Source | Later attribution: The Burning Flame of Love (Jean Maalouf, 2017) modern compilationISBN: 9781543442953 · ID: MiwyDwAAQBAJ
Evidence:
... How do you know love is gone? If you said that you would be there at seven and you get there by nine, and he or she has not called the police yet—it's gone.” And you know what? Physically, the heart is a few inches away from the brain ... |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Dietrich, Marlene. (2026, March 23). How do you know love is gone? If you said that you would be there at seven and you get there by nine, and he or she has not called the police yet - it's gone. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/how-do-you-know-love-is-gone-if-you-said-that-you-108178/
Chicago Style
Dietrich, Marlene. "How do you know love is gone? If you said that you would be there at seven and you get there by nine, and he or she has not called the police yet - it's gone." FixQuotes. March 23, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/how-do-you-know-love-is-gone-if-you-said-that-you-108178/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"How do you know love is gone? If you said that you would be there at seven and you get there by nine, and he or she has not called the police yet - it's gone." FixQuotes, 23 Mar. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/how-do-you-know-love-is-gone-if-you-said-that-you-108178/. Accessed 31 Mar. 2026.








