"Human beings tolerate what they understand they have to tolerate"
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Rule’s line lands like a quiet indictment: tolerance isn’t framed as virtue, it’s framed as paperwork. “Tolerate” isn’t “embrace” or even “accept”; it’s the bare-minimum social contract, the thing people do when resistance becomes too costly or too embarrassing. The sting is in the clause “what they understand they have to tolerate.” Understanding here isn’t enlightenment. It’s calculation. People can live beside difference, pain, injustice, even hypocrisy, if they’re convinced the alternative is worse: exile, conflict, economic loss, moral effort.
That’s a particularly sharp lens coming from Jane Rule, a Canadian novelist and essayist whose work moved through queer life, social constraint, and the often claustrophobic “politeness” of mid-20th-century liberal societies. Rule knew the difference between being permitted and being welcomed. In that context, the sentence reads like a report from the front lines of everyday marginalization: institutions and families don’t necessarily grow kinder; they adjust when they must, when denial is no longer administratively possible, when social pressure turns avoidance into liability.
The subtext is bracingly unsentimental. Progress doesn’t always arrive as moral epiphany; it often arrives as reluctant accommodation. Rule also exposes the self-serving narrative communities tell about themselves. They claim tolerance as evidence of open-mindedness, but the engine is necessity: demographic reality, legal compulsion, public shame, personal proximity. The quote works because it refuses to flatter the reader. It turns “tolerance” from a badge into a baseline, and asks what we do once the minimum has been met.
That’s a particularly sharp lens coming from Jane Rule, a Canadian novelist and essayist whose work moved through queer life, social constraint, and the often claustrophobic “politeness” of mid-20th-century liberal societies. Rule knew the difference between being permitted and being welcomed. In that context, the sentence reads like a report from the front lines of everyday marginalization: institutions and families don’t necessarily grow kinder; they adjust when they must, when denial is no longer administratively possible, when social pressure turns avoidance into liability.
The subtext is bracingly unsentimental. Progress doesn’t always arrive as moral epiphany; it often arrives as reluctant accommodation. Rule also exposes the self-serving narrative communities tell about themselves. They claim tolerance as evidence of open-mindedness, but the engine is necessity: demographic reality, legal compulsion, public shame, personal proximity. The quote works because it refuses to flatter the reader. It turns “tolerance” from a badge into a baseline, and asks what we do once the minimum has been met.
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