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Life & Wisdom Quote by Charles Bukowski

"Human relationships are strange. I mean, you are with one person a while, eating and sleeping and living with them, loving them, talking to them, going places together, and then it stops"

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Bukowski aims a flashlight at the part of romance most culture treats as a footnote: the stopping. Not betrayal, not tragedy, not even a clean moral. Just cessation. The sentence moves like a shrug that’s actually a shudder, piling up the mundane verbs - eating and sleeping and living - until love looks less like a grand feeling than a shared schedule. That’s the trick: he domesticates intimacy so thoroughly that its disappearance feels weirder than its presence.

The subtext is anti-mythmaking. Relationships aren’t framed as soul-matching or personal growth arcs; they’re temporary arrangements that can end without cosmic explanation. “Human relationships are strange” is Bukowski’s way of refusing the tidy narrative of closure. The line “and then it stops” lands with the blunt finality of a bar door swinging shut. No “we grew apart”, no therapeutic rationale. Just an endpoint, like a habit quitting you.

Context matters. Bukowski’s work is steeped in working-class drift, alcoholism, and a suspicion of sentimentality - a worldview where stability is provisional and tenderness is real but rarely safe. He’s writing against the romantic industry’s insistence that love must mean permanence. By emphasizing routine, he also hints at why things end: not always because of a single explosive event, but because repetition erodes meaning, because desire can’t always survive logistics, because people change off-screen.

The quote works because it’s both intimate and alienated: the list pulls you into a shared bed and shared errands, then reminds you how easily a life can become a before-and-after with nothing but silence in between.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Bukowski, Charles. (2026, February 10). Human relationships are strange. I mean, you are with one person a while, eating and sleeping and living with them, loving them, talking to them, going places together, and then it stops. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/human-relationships-are-strange-i-mean-you-are-185216/

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Bukowski, Charles. "Human relationships are strange. I mean, you are with one person a while, eating and sleeping and living with them, loving them, talking to them, going places together, and then it stops." FixQuotes. February 10, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/human-relationships-are-strange-i-mean-you-are-185216/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Human relationships are strange. I mean, you are with one person a while, eating and sleeping and living with them, loving them, talking to them, going places together, and then it stops." FixQuotes, 10 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/human-relationships-are-strange-i-mean-you-are-185216/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Charles Bukowski

Charles Bukowski (August 16, 1920 - March 9, 1994) was a Poet from USA.

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