"Husbands are like fires - they go out when they're left unattended"
About this Quote
The subtext is a double hit. On one level, it’s a warning about emotional neglect: stop showing up and intimacy cools. On another, it’s a sly comment on the gendered labor of heterosexual marriage. The punchline implies that someone is expected to “tend” the husband, and that if he “goes out,” the blame quietly slides toward the person who failed to watch the flame. Cher delivers the idea with enough comic bite that it reads less like advice and more like a critique of the unfair bargain.
Context matters: Cher’s public persona has always mixed glamour with plainspoken realism, a diva who refuses to pretend she’s not doing the math. Coming out of eras that sold women a fantasy of effortless forever, she flips the script: the relationship isn’t sacred; it’s contingent. The wit isn’t just for laughs - it’s armor, and it’s also a kind of permission slip to say the unsentimental part out loud.
Quote Details
| Topic | Husband & Wife |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Cher. (2026, January 14). Husbands are like fires - they go out when they're left unattended. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/husbands-are-like-fires-they-go-out-when-theyre-141920/
Chicago Style
Cher. "Husbands are like fires - they go out when they're left unattended." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/husbands-are-like-fires-they-go-out-when-theyre-141920/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Husbands are like fires - they go out when they're left unattended." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/husbands-are-like-fires-they-go-out-when-theyre-141920/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









