"I always ask myself, would I want someone to do something that wasn't comfortable for them just to please me? And the answer is no"
About this Quote
The intent is practical, almost procedural: build a reflex that interrupts entitlement before it becomes an expectation. That matters coming from an actress, a profession historically built on other people’s demands - directors, audiences, tabloids - and on women being trained to accommodate them. Portman’s subtext is a refusal of the performative femininity that treats pleasing as a default setting. She’s also offering a language for boundary-setting that doesn’t escalate into accusation; it’s not “you’re wrong,” it’s “I don’t want to be the person who benefits from your self-erasure.”
Contextually, the quote feels shaped by the post-#MeToo recalibration, where consent isn’t only about sex but about the everyday micro-negotiations: emotional labor, physical contact, career compromises, public access. It works because it’s disarming: empathy as a standard, not a virtue signal. The bar is low on purpose - and that’s the point.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Portman, Natalie. (2026, January 16). I always ask myself, would I want someone to do something that wasn't comfortable for them just to please me? And the answer is no. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-always-ask-myself-would-i-want-someone-to-do-94027/
Chicago Style
Portman, Natalie. "I always ask myself, would I want someone to do something that wasn't comfortable for them just to please me? And the answer is no." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-always-ask-myself-would-i-want-someone-to-do-94027/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I always ask myself, would I want someone to do something that wasn't comfortable for them just to please me? And the answer is no." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-always-ask-myself-would-i-want-someone-to-do-94027/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.










