"I am a lover and have not found my thing to love"
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The subtext is modern in the way it refuses romantic completion. Anderson, writing in the early 20th-century Midwest-to-modernity churn, is steeped in people whose inner lives outgrow the available scripts: marriage, church, work, hometown respectability. To call oneself “a lover” is to claim an identity built on openness and intensity, but the second clause punctures it with alienation. The “thing to love” could be a person, but it just as plausibly gestures toward art, purpose, a community, or a coherent self. Anderson’s genius is that he leaves it unspecified, so the ache can attach to whatever the era withholds.
It works because it’s both humble and accusatory. Humble: the speaker admits lack, not superiority. Accusatory: the world has failed to provide a worthy object for a genuine human impulse. The sentence is spare, almost plainspoken, yet it smuggles in a whole theory of American restlessness: desire as identity, and dissatisfaction as the price of being awake.
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| Topic | Soulmate |
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Anderson, Sherwood. (2026, January 16). I am a lover and have not found my thing to love. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-am-a-lover-and-have-not-found-my-thing-to-love-124876/
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Anderson, Sherwood. "I am a lover and have not found my thing to love." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-am-a-lover-and-have-not-found-my-thing-to-love-124876/.
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"I am a lover and have not found my thing to love." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-am-a-lover-and-have-not-found-my-thing-to-love-124876/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.













