Life & Wisdom Quote by Andrew Cohen

Cohen’s line borrows the grammar of spiritual self-sufficiency and aims it at one of our most culturally loaded scripts: romance as completion. The intent is plainly corrective. It’s trying to cauterize a dependency story that turns love into a remedial project, where a partner becomes proof you’re finally “enough.” By declaring inherent fullness up front, Cohen makes adulthood less about being chosen and more about refusing to outsource your worth.

The subtext is where the quote does its real work. “Inherently full and complete” isn’t just a self-esteem slogan; it’s a metaphysical claim dressed in relationship language. It implies that loneliness, longing, even erotic desire aren’t evidence of lack, but experiences occurring within a self that is already intact. That framing can be liberating: it loosens the grip of codependency, the panic of being single, the subtle bargaining that creeps into dating (“If I’m loved, I’m real”).

Context matters because Cohen writes from a contemporary spiritual milieu that often tries to reconcile enlightenment talk with modern identity politics and relationship norms. The gendered phrasing (“man” and “woman”) reflects an older, binary rhetorical habit, even as the message itself aligns with newer cultural moves toward autonomy and self-definition. There’s also an austerity here that can cut both ways. If taken rigidly, “don’t need” can read like a preemptive defense against vulnerability, as if needing anyone is a moral failure. The stronger reading is more nuanced: love isn’t a rescue mission; it’s an addition, not a repair.