"I am in love - and, my God, it is the greatest thing that can happen to a man. I tell you, find a woman you can fall in love with. Do it. Let yourself fall in love. If you have not done so already, you are wasting your life"
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The subtext is classic Lawrence: love as a force that breaks the polite self apart and returns you to something more bodily, more alive, more dangerous. He’s not selling companionship or social stability; he’s attacking the modern habit of staying buffered - by work, by prudence, by irony. "Let yourself fall in love" frames love as surrender, not achievement. The verb "fall" smuggles in risk and loss of control, which is precisely the point: for Lawrence, the controlled life is the wasted life.
Context sharpens the edge. Lawrence wrote in a culture tightening itself with industrial routine, post-Victorian restraint, and (soon) the spiritual hangover of World War I. His fiction and essays keep insisting that disconnection is the era’s disease, and that eros is one of the few remaining antidotes. The line "find a woman" also exposes the period’s gendered assumptions - love as a man’s awakening via a woman’s presence - but even that limitation reveals his deeper obsession: not equality as an abstract ideal, but intimacy as a revolt against numbness.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lawrence, David Herbert. (2026, January 18). I am in love - and, my God, it is the greatest thing that can happen to a man. I tell you, find a woman you can fall in love with. Do it. Let yourself fall in love. If you have not done so already, you are wasting your life. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-am-in-love-and-my-god-it-is-the-greatest-12383/
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Lawrence, David Herbert. "I am in love - and, my God, it is the greatest thing that can happen to a man. I tell you, find a woman you can fall in love with. Do it. Let yourself fall in love. If you have not done so already, you are wasting your life." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-am-in-love-and-my-god-it-is-the-greatest-12383/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I am in love - and, my God, it is the greatest thing that can happen to a man. I tell you, find a woman you can fall in love with. Do it. Let yourself fall in love. If you have not done so already, you are wasting your life." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-am-in-love-and-my-god-it-is-the-greatest-12383/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.









