"I am told that I had a bad temper, and remember being banished to the back hall until civility returned"
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Then comes the image: banishment to the back hall. It’s domestic and architectural, a small exile in the geography of manners. Not a beating, not a sermon - a quiet quarantine until "civility returned", as if politeness were a weather system that rolls back in. The phrasing is gently comic, but it’s also disciplinary: emotion is treated as a temporary malfunction, and reintegration is contingent on performing social control. That’s a family’s moral technology in miniature, training a child to understand that membership has terms.
For a 20th-century scientist, the subtext lands as origin story. The temperament that got him sent away is acknowledged, but sanded down into a respectable narrative of self-regulation. It hints at the cultural bargain many high achievers were taught: intensity is permitted only if it can be translated into productivity and politeness. Boyer doesn’t claim he was wrongly punished or proudly unruly; he remembers the rule, and the rule worked. The line reads like a calibration of the self - the making of a mind that will later prize control, method, and the ability to return to the room looking composed.
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| Topic | Anger |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Boyer, Paul D. (2026, January 16). I am told that I had a bad temper, and remember being banished to the back hall until civility returned. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-am-told-that-i-had-a-bad-temper-and-remember-130566/
Chicago Style
Boyer, Paul D. "I am told that I had a bad temper, and remember being banished to the back hall until civility returned." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-am-told-that-i-had-a-bad-temper-and-remember-130566/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I am told that I had a bad temper, and remember being banished to the back hall until civility returned." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-am-told-that-i-had-a-bad-temper-and-remember-130566/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.



