"I believe managing is like holding a dove in your hand. If you hold it too tightly you kill it, but if you hold it too loosely, you lose it"
About this Quote
The line lands because it smuggles a hard truth inside a gentle metaphor: control is always a tradeoff, and the cost is borne by the controlled. Lasorda, a famously intense baseball lifer, isn’t renouncing authority; he’s defining it as restraint under pressure. That subtext matters coming from a coach, a role mythologized as pure command-and-motivation. He’s admitting that the manager’s biggest opponent is often his own impulse to over-manage, to turn every slump into a sermon, every error into a referendum.
In the context of baseball - a long season, public failure, fragile confidence - the dove becomes a proxy for morale. You can’t bark a hitter into seeing the ball, or micromanage a pitcher into trusting his stuff. The best managing is calibrating grip: present, demanding, and deliberately incomplete. Leadership as practiced humility, not performative dominance.
Quote Details
| Topic | Management |
|---|---|
| Source | Quote attributed to Tommy Lasorda; listed on the Tommy Lasorda Wikiquote page (no specific primary-source citation given). |
| Cite | Cite this Quote |
Citation Formats
APA Style (7th ed.)
Lasorda, Tommy. (n.d.). I believe managing is like holding a dove in your hand. If you hold it too tightly you kill it, but if you hold it too loosely, you lose it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-believe-managing-is-like-holding-a-dove-in-your-117597/
Chicago Style
Lasorda, Tommy. "I believe managing is like holding a dove in your hand. If you hold it too tightly you kill it, but if you hold it too loosely, you lose it." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-believe-managing-is-like-holding-a-dove-in-your-117597/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I believe managing is like holding a dove in your hand. If you hold it too tightly you kill it, but if you hold it too loosely, you lose it." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-believe-managing-is-like-holding-a-dove-in-your-117597/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.






