"I believe we're all in denial about the people we love"
About this Quote
The intent isn’t to sneer at affection; it’s to name its hidden operating system. Denial becomes less a moral failure than a strategy for attachment. We stay close by maintaining a curated story about someone’s capacity, motives, fidelity, addiction, ambition, cruelty, fragility - whatever threatens the bond. The subtext is transactional in a way that feels distinctly Geffen: love as an investment with risk, volatility, and a steady stream of inconvenient data. You don’t keep the relationship by winning every argument with reality; you keep it by choosing which truths to price in.
Context matters because Geffen’s world - entertainment, power, reputational management - is built on selective perception. Celebrity culture trains everyone, not just stars, to collaborate in a flattering narrative. Even privately, the impulse persists: we protect the “brand” of the person we love so we can keep loving them without swallowing the full cost.
The line works because it flips a sentimental assumption. Love isn’t clarity; it’s often willful blur. The sting is that he says “we’re all” - not accusing a single type of fool, but implicating the entire audience in the soft frauds that make intimacy possible.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Geffen, David. (2026, January 17). I believe we're all in denial about the people we love. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-believe-were-all-in-denial-about-the-people-we-55642/
Chicago Style
Geffen, David. "I believe we're all in denial about the people we love." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-believe-were-all-in-denial-about-the-people-we-55642/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I believe we're all in denial about the people we love." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-believe-were-all-in-denial-about-the-people-we-55642/. Accessed 23 Feb. 2026.












