"I can understand in some sense, having played the character, how unimaginably frustrating it is for people to tell you that you can't love who you love, because you ain't going to change it, and so they have to get out of your way"
About this Quote
The engine of the quote is frustration, not abstract principle. “Unimaginably frustrating” is doing heavy work: it translates the politics of sexuality into an everyday, bodily feeling - the exhaustion of being argued with about your own interior life. Then she lands the rhetorical punch with the plainspoken inevitability of desire: “you ain’t going to change it.” No court, church, family council, or comment section can legislate someone into different love. That bluntness sidesteps the trap of debating whether love is “right” and treats it as stubborn fact.
The subtext is a rebuke to gatekeepers who cast themselves as guardians of morality. Perabo flips the burden: if love won’t be reshaped, the only move left is social accommodation. “They have to get out of your way” is deliberately physical language, turning discrimination into obstruction. It’s not asking permission; it’s describing a world where other people’s opinions are just traffic, and the ethical demand is simple: stop blocking the road.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Perabo, Piper. (2026, January 17). I can understand in some sense, having played the character, how unimaginably frustrating it is for people to tell you that you can't love who you love, because you ain't going to change it, and so they have to get out of your way. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-can-understand-in-some-sense-having-played-the-79386/
Chicago Style
Perabo, Piper. "I can understand in some sense, having played the character, how unimaginably frustrating it is for people to tell you that you can't love who you love, because you ain't going to change it, and so they have to get out of your way." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-can-understand-in-some-sense-having-played-the-79386/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I can understand in some sense, having played the character, how unimaginably frustrating it is for people to tell you that you can't love who you love, because you ain't going to change it, and so they have to get out of your way." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-can-understand-in-some-sense-having-played-the-79386/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.



