"I can't fly a flag for monogamy or whatever the opposite is; it depends on the person and on the situation"
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Sting’s line lands like a practiced shrug from someone who’s been turned into a walking symbol for other people’s arguments. “I can’t fly a flag” is the key: he’s rejecting the demand to be a mascot, not just refusing to pick a side. It’s an image of activism and identity politics applied to sex and relationships, and he’s swatting it away with the weary pragmatism of a public figure who knows every personal detail becomes a referendum.
The phrasing does two clever things. First, it frames monogamy as a cause with banners and tribal membership, then immediately deflates that framing with “or whatever the opposite is,” a casual dismissal that signals how clumsy our labels can be. Non-monogamy isn’t even granted a clean name here, which subtly critiques the way media culture loves neat categories more than messy reality.
Then comes the real tell: “it depends.” That’s not indecision so much as a bid for moral elasticity. Sting is carving out space for context - different people, different seasons, different needs - while sidestepping a confession. The subtext is control: he’s asserting his right to be inconsistent without being condemned as hypocritical or crowned as enlightened.
Coming from a musician whose persona has long mixed sensuality, spirituality, and cosmopolitan freedom, the quote reads as brand management with a pulse. It’s an attempt to sound humane rather than doctrinaire, private without being prudish, open-minded without turning intimacy into a manifesto.
The phrasing does two clever things. First, it frames monogamy as a cause with banners and tribal membership, then immediately deflates that framing with “or whatever the opposite is,” a casual dismissal that signals how clumsy our labels can be. Non-monogamy isn’t even granted a clean name here, which subtly critiques the way media culture loves neat categories more than messy reality.
Then comes the real tell: “it depends.” That’s not indecision so much as a bid for moral elasticity. Sting is carving out space for context - different people, different seasons, different needs - while sidestepping a confession. The subtext is control: he’s asserting his right to be inconsistent without being condemned as hypocritical or crowned as enlightened.
Coming from a musician whose persona has long mixed sensuality, spirituality, and cosmopolitan freedom, the quote reads as brand management with a pulse. It’s an attempt to sound humane rather than doctrinaire, private without being prudish, open-minded without turning intimacy into a manifesto.
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| Topic | Relationship |
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