"I collect human relationships very much the way others collect fine art"
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Kosinski’s choice of “collect” does the real work. Collecting is patient, selective, a little predatory. It implies a market, a hierarchy of taste, and an eye trained to spot value. That turns friendships and lovers into objects with resale potential: contacts, access, protection, perhaps even a story to use later. The subtext isn’t loneliness; it’s control. Even “very much the way others” signals a defensive normalizing: don’t judge me, everyone collects something.
Placed against Kosinski’s public persona and the cold social ecosystems his fiction often dissects, the quote reads like a mission statement for a certain kind of modern operator: the person who moves through rooms treating charisma as currency. It also nods to immigrant and outsider psychology without sentimentalizing it: when you’ve learned to survive by reading people fast, relationships can start to feel like assets to manage.
The sting is that the metaphor flatters the speaker’s sophistication while confessing an emotional bankruptcy. Art doesn’t talk back. People do. Calling them a collection preemptively denies them that right.
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| Topic | Friendship |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Kosinski, Jerzy. (2026, January 15). I collect human relationships very much the way others collect fine art. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-collect-human-relationships-very-much-the-way-145943/
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Kosinski, Jerzy. "I collect human relationships very much the way others collect fine art." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-collect-human-relationships-very-much-the-way-145943/.
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"I collect human relationships very much the way others collect fine art." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-collect-human-relationships-very-much-the-way-145943/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





