"I couldn't be in a relationship and behave like somebody else or pretend I felt something I didn't feel. And that includes saying things I thought might jeopardize the relationship"
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The sharpest turn is the second sentence: “And that includes saying things I thought might jeopardize the relationship.” It’s an admission that authenticity isn’t just about confessing feelings; it’s also about not volunteering truths that function as self-sabotage. That’s a surprisingly mature kind of integrity: he’s not romanticizing brutal candor, he’s interrogating motive. Are you being “real,” or are you picking a fight because intimacy makes you restless? In musician terms, it’s the difference between singing from the gut and hitting a note just to prove you can.
The subtext is control. Loggins is drawing a boundary around performance, insisting that the stage stays onstage. Coming from a pop craftsman whose career rewarded polish and palatability, the quote reads like a private corrective to the public brand: off-mic, he won’t smooth over discomfort for applause. The intent isn’t to sound noble; it’s to name the cost of pretending, and the quieter discipline required not to weaponize truth when you’re afraid of being known.
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| Topic | Relationship |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Loggins, Kenny. (2026, January 15). I couldn't be in a relationship and behave like somebody else or pretend I felt something I didn't feel. And that includes saying things I thought might jeopardize the relationship. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-couldnt-be-in-a-relationship-and-behave-like-166127/
Chicago Style
Loggins, Kenny. "I couldn't be in a relationship and behave like somebody else or pretend I felt something I didn't feel. And that includes saying things I thought might jeopardize the relationship." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-couldnt-be-in-a-relationship-and-behave-like-166127/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I couldn't be in a relationship and behave like somebody else or pretend I felt something I didn't feel. And that includes saying things I thought might jeopardize the relationship." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-couldnt-be-in-a-relationship-and-behave-like-166127/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.




