"I couldn't bear it if anyone knew I had hardly any self-confidence at all"
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The line works because it frames self-confidence as something you owe other people, a social currency you're expected to carry without letting anyone see the empty wallet. "If anyone knew" signals surveillance: studio publicity machines, gossip columns, moral gatekeepers, and the casual cruelty of a marketplace that treated women as both fantasy and cautionary tale. Young was famously associated with a wholesome, controlled image; the subtext is that "confidence" is part of that chastity-belt packaging. Doubt had to be managed like a scandal.
There's also a quiet strategy embedded here. Admitting low self-confidence after the fact is a kind of retroactive power move: she gets to puncture the myth without surrendering it. The sentence preserves her competence (she passed as confident) while indicting the system that made passing necessary. It lands today because influencer culture still rewards the same trick: sell certainty, hide the labor, never let them see you flinch.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Young, Loretta. (2026, January 15). I couldn't bear it if anyone knew I had hardly any self-confidence at all. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-couldnt-bear-it-if-anyone-knew-i-had-hardly-any-150754/
Chicago Style
Young, Loretta. "I couldn't bear it if anyone knew I had hardly any self-confidence at all." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-couldnt-bear-it-if-anyone-knew-i-had-hardly-any-150754/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I couldn't bear it if anyone knew I had hardly any self-confidence at all." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-couldnt-bear-it-if-anyone-knew-i-had-hardly-any-150754/. Accessed 6 Feb. 2026.









