"I decided that Europeans and Americans are like men and women: they understand each other worse, and it matters less, than either of them suppose"
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The intent is diagnostic, almost teasing. Postwar transatlantic culture liked to treat “Europe” and “America” as coherent personalities: Old World sophistication versus New World energy, refinement versus vulgarity, tradition versus innocence. Jarrell, a poet-critic with a skeptic’s ear for cultural self-mythology, punctures that binary. The subtext is that both sides are performing: misunderstanding becomes a way to keep one’s identity crisp. If Europe can complain about American naivete, it gets to stay “Europe.” If America can bristle at European condescension, it gets to stay “America.” The misunderstanding is functional.
The men-and-women comparison adds another barb: these categories are socially constructed, overgeneralized, and convenient. Jarrell isn’t endorsing the stereotype so much as exploiting its recognizability to expose the same lazy essentialism in international talk. The closing clause - “than either of them suppose” - is the quiet humiliation. The real object of satire isn’t the other side; it’s our craving to believe our cross-cultural friction is profound, when it’s often just habit plus ego.
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"I decided that Europeans and Americans are like men and women: they understand each other worse, and it matters less, than either of them suppose." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-decided-that-europeans-and-americans-are-like-144865/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





