"I don't have expectations. Expectations in your life just lead to giant disappointments"
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Michael Landon spent decades inside Americas living rooms, first on Bonanza, then shaping and starring in Little House on the Prairie and Highway to Heaven. He knew the churn of a business where ratings swing, scripts change, and a show you bet your heart on can vanish after a season. He also carried the scars of a turbulent childhood and, later, the blunt finality of illness. The line about refusing expectations sounds blunt, but it comes from a life that learned how costly it is to demand a specific future from a world that will not be managed.
An expectation is not the same as a goal. Goals invite effort; expectations demand guarantees. Expectations convert possibilities into promises we believe the world owes us. When reality fails to match that private contract, disappointment grows large, because the gap is not just between what is and what we wanted, but between what is and what we felt entitled to receive. Landons stance pushes the focus back onto process: show up, work hard, tell the truth, be present with people, and let outcomes land where they will.
There is a practical kindness in that posture. Without a tight script for how things must go, you get to be surprised instead of betrayed. You notice what is working rather than ruminating over what should have happened. Gratitude has room to appear. Resilience, too, because setbacks are not violations of an agreement; they are part of the path.
Some worry that dropping expectations breeds complacency. Landons career argues the opposite. He held high standards and took responsibility, but he loosened his grip on results he could not control. The shift is from certainty to engagement: replace I will get this with I will give my best. That trade lowers the volume on disappointment and raises the chances of living fully in whatever actually arrives.
An expectation is not the same as a goal. Goals invite effort; expectations demand guarantees. Expectations convert possibilities into promises we believe the world owes us. When reality fails to match that private contract, disappointment grows large, because the gap is not just between what is and what we wanted, but between what is and what we felt entitled to receive. Landons stance pushes the focus back onto process: show up, work hard, tell the truth, be present with people, and let outcomes land where they will.
There is a practical kindness in that posture. Without a tight script for how things must go, you get to be surprised instead of betrayed. You notice what is working rather than ruminating over what should have happened. Gratitude has room to appear. Resilience, too, because setbacks are not violations of an agreement; they are part of the path.
Some worry that dropping expectations breeds complacency. Landons career argues the opposite. He held high standards and took responsibility, but he loosened his grip on results he could not control. The shift is from certainty to engagement: replace I will get this with I will give my best. That trade lowers the volume on disappointment and raises the chances of living fully in whatever actually arrives.
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| Topic | Letting Go |
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