"I don't know of many evangelicals who want to deny gay couples their legal rights. However, most of us don't want to call it marriage, because we think that word has religious connotations, and we're not ready to see it used in ways that offend us"
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The subtext is that language is power, and “marriage” functions as a kind of moral trademark. Campolo grants the state’s authority to confer legal rights, but reserves the spiritual brand for the church’s preferred use. By framing marriage as a term with “religious connotations,” he implies that secular society is borrowing sacred property without permission. That move both softens and sharpens the argument: softens it by conceding civil liberties; sharpens it by asserting a veto over public vocabulary.
Context matters: Campolo emerged as a prominent evangelical voice trying to temper culture-war absolutism, especially as same-sex marriage became the defining flashpoint of American religion and politics in the 2000s and early 2010s. His rhetoric reads like an attempt to hold together a coalition that’s cracking - reassuring moderates that evangelicals aren’t cruel, while signaling to traditionalists that the boundary still stands. The tell is “we’re not ready”: it admits the issue isn’t purely theological; it’s about a community’s capacity to adapt without feeling it has surrendered its identity.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Campolo, Tony. (2026, January 16). I don't know of many evangelicals who want to deny gay couples their legal rights. However, most of us don't want to call it marriage, because we think that word has religious connotations, and we're not ready to see it used in ways that offend us. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-know-of-many-evangelicals-who-want-to-deny-122047/
Chicago Style
Campolo, Tony. "I don't know of many evangelicals who want to deny gay couples their legal rights. However, most of us don't want to call it marriage, because we think that word has religious connotations, and we're not ready to see it used in ways that offend us." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-know-of-many-evangelicals-who-want-to-deny-122047/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I don't know of many evangelicals who want to deny gay couples their legal rights. However, most of us don't want to call it marriage, because we think that word has religious connotations, and we're not ready to see it used in ways that offend us." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-know-of-many-evangelicals-who-want-to-deny-122047/. Accessed 1 Mar. 2026.




