"I don't know whether Mrs. Borden is out or in; I wish you would see if she is in her room"
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That indirection is the point. In the Borden story, every syllable is heard with the volume turned up, because language becomes part of the evidence: what did she know, when did she know it, how urgently did she act, how credibly did she perform ordinary concern? This line works because it's a rehearsal of normalcy. It's domestic etiquette used as an alibi, a way to stage calm while triggering action from someone else who will become a witness.
The context matters: a respectable home, rigid gendered expectations, and a public eager to turn a woman into either monster or martyr. The sentence sits at that collision point. It isn't dramatic; it's managerial. That's why it's chilling. If you're trying to look like the kind of person to whom horror could not possibly be happening, you speak in housekeeping.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Borden, Lizzie Andrew. (2026, January 16). I don't know whether Mrs. Borden is out or in; I wish you would see if she is in her room. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-know-whether-mrs-borden-is-out-or-in-i-114848/
Chicago Style
Borden, Lizzie Andrew. "I don't know whether Mrs. Borden is out or in; I wish you would see if she is in her room." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-know-whether-mrs-borden-is-out-or-in-i-114848/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I don't know whether Mrs. Borden is out or in; I wish you would see if she is in her room." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-know-whether-mrs-borden-is-out-or-in-i-114848/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.

