"I don't like things held up before me that I cannot have"
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A small complaint that blooms into a whole ethics of desire: “I don’t like things held up before me that I cannot have” isn’t just envy speaking, it’s the protest of someone being turned into an audience for their own deprivation. The phrasing “held up before me” matters. It implies a deliberate display, a choreography of temptation staged by someone else. This isn’t the accidental pain of seeing what you want; it’s the humiliating feeling of being shown it, like a prize dangled to confirm the distance between you and the prize.
Golden’s work is preoccupied with beauty as a kind of currency and cruelty, especially in worlds where women’s lives are narrowed into transactions. Read in that shadow, the line carries the sound of a person trained to measure longing against what is permitted. “Cannot have” is doing heavy lifting: it suggests rules, class, gender, money, status - the invisible fences that make desire feel like trespassing. The speaker’s dislike isn’t moral prudishness; it’s self-preservation. To want openly in a system that denies you becomes a way of being made legible, exploitable, controllable.
There’s also a quiet refusal embedded in the tone. The sentence doesn’t ask for the forbidden object, doesn’t plead. It critiques the spectacle itself, the social habit of advertising unattainability as entertainment. Golden captures how aspiration can be engineered into a leash: once you internalize the bait, you start walking yourself toward the trap.
Golden’s work is preoccupied with beauty as a kind of currency and cruelty, especially in worlds where women’s lives are narrowed into transactions. Read in that shadow, the line carries the sound of a person trained to measure longing against what is permitted. “Cannot have” is doing heavy lifting: it suggests rules, class, gender, money, status - the invisible fences that make desire feel like trespassing. The speaker’s dislike isn’t moral prudishness; it’s self-preservation. To want openly in a system that denies you becomes a way of being made legible, exploitable, controllable.
There’s also a quiet refusal embedded in the tone. The sentence doesn’t ask for the forbidden object, doesn’t plead. It critiques the spectacle itself, the social habit of advertising unattainability as entertainment. Golden captures how aspiration can be engineered into a leash: once you internalize the bait, you start walking yourself toward the trap.
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