"I don't really remember my folks singing to us, but they read to us"
About this Quote
The first clause is disarmingly plain - “I don’t really remember” - a hedge that signals honesty more than drama. Memory here is the instrument; she’s telling you what didn’t imprint. Then comes the pivot: “but they read to us.” That “but” carries a whole theory of how art gets passed down. Reading aloud is intimate without being performative. It’s attention, routine, a kind of care that doesn’t require a parent to be charismatic or musical. Carpenter suggests that what she absorbed wasn’t pitch but narrative: cadence, character, the emotional architecture of a story. For a songwriter, that’s not a consolation prize; it’s the raw material.
There’s cultural context, too. For many American families - especially in the pre-streaming, pre-YouTube era - reading was the accessible enrichment, the middle-class ritual that stood in for lessons, concerts, or the idea of a “creative home.” Carpenter’s subtext is a gentle correction to gatekeeping: you don’t need a house full of musicians to become one. You need someone who consistently hands you words and says, this matters.
Quote Details
| Topic | Parenting |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Carpenter, Mary Chapin. (2026, January 16). I don't really remember my folks singing to us, but they read to us. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-really-remember-my-folks-singing-to-us-but-89449/
Chicago Style
Carpenter, Mary Chapin. "I don't really remember my folks singing to us, but they read to us." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-really-remember-my-folks-singing-to-us-but-89449/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I don't really remember my folks singing to us, but they read to us." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-really-remember-my-folks-singing-to-us-but-89449/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.

