"I don't remember deciding to become a writer. You decide to become a dentist or a postman. For me, writing is like being gay. You finally admit that this is who you are, you come out and hope that no one runs away"
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The gay analogy is doing several jobs at once. It frames creativity as something felt privately long before it’s sanctioned publicly, and it underscores the risk embedded in self-disclosure. “Come out” points to the moment when what’s internal becomes legible to others - editors, readers, friends, family - and therefore vulnerable to rejection. That last clause, “hope that no one runs away,” is the quote’s quiet punchline: it captures the fear that honesty can make you inconvenient, embarrassing, or simply too much.
There’s subtextual critique here of how culture polices legitimacy. We’re comfortable with conventional professions because they’re recognizable; we get twitchy around identities that don’t arrive with uniforms. Haddon’s line also hints at the loneliness of the writer’s life: you can’t be drafted into it, and you can’t outsource the leap. You disclose yourself on the page and then wait, exposed, to see who stays.
Quote Details
| Topic | Writing |
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| Source | Verified source: B is for bestseller (Mark Haddon, 2004)
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I don't remember deciding to become a writer. You decide to become a dentist or a postman. For me, writing is like being gay. You finally admit that this is who you are, you come out and hope that no one runs away.. Primary-source match in an article written by Mark Haddon, published Sun 11 Apr 2004 (The Observer / The Guardian site). Within the article text this appears as a standalone paragraph (around line 200 in the HTML view). I did not find evidence in this search session of an earlier (pre-11 Apr 2004) publication of the same wording; many later quote-aggregation sites appear to copy it from this piece. |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Haddon, Mark. (2026, February 23). I don't remember deciding to become a writer. You decide to become a dentist or a postman. For me, writing is like being gay. You finally admit that this is who you are, you come out and hope that no one runs away. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-remember-deciding-to-become-a-writer-you-79562/
Chicago Style
Haddon, Mark. "I don't remember deciding to become a writer. You decide to become a dentist or a postman. For me, writing is like being gay. You finally admit that this is who you are, you come out and hope that no one runs away." FixQuotes. February 23, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-remember-deciding-to-become-a-writer-you-79562/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I don't remember deciding to become a writer. You decide to become a dentist or a postman. For me, writing is like being gay. You finally admit that this is who you are, you come out and hope that no one runs away." FixQuotes, 23 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-remember-deciding-to-become-a-writer-you-79562/. Accessed 27 Feb. 2026.






