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Daily Inspiration Quote by Mark Haddon

"I don't remember deciding to become a writer. You decide to become a dentist or a postman. For me, writing is like being gay. You finally admit that this is who you are, you come out and hope that no one runs away"

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Haddon’s provocation works because it refuses the tidy career-story we like to tell about artists: the childhood vow, the clear plan, the inspirational mentor. Instead, he yanks writing out of the realm of “decision” and into the realm of identity, where the usual language of ambition stops making sense. “Dentist or postman” is a deliberately prosaic contrast, a reminder that many jobs are chosen within a stable social script. Writing, for him, isn’t a ladder you climb; it’s a fact you stop denying.

The gay analogy is doing several jobs at once. It frames creativity as something felt privately long before it’s sanctioned publicly, and it underscores the risk embedded in self-disclosure. “Come out” points to the moment when what’s internal becomes legible to others - editors, readers, friends, family - and therefore vulnerable to rejection. That last clause, “hope that no one runs away,” is the quote’s quiet punchline: it captures the fear that honesty can make you inconvenient, embarrassing, or simply too much.

There’s subtextual critique here of how culture polices legitimacy. We’re comfortable with conventional professions because they’re recognizable; we get twitchy around identities that don’t arrive with uniforms. Haddon’s line also hints at the loneliness of the writer’s life: you can’t be drafted into it, and you can’t outsource the leap. You disclose yourself on the page and then wait, exposed, to see who stays.

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Haddon, Mark. (2026, January 15). I don't remember deciding to become a writer. You decide to become a dentist or a postman. For me, writing is like being gay. You finally admit that this is who you are, you come out and hope that no one runs away. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-remember-deciding-to-become-a-writer-you-79562/

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Haddon, Mark. "I don't remember deciding to become a writer. You decide to become a dentist or a postman. For me, writing is like being gay. You finally admit that this is who you are, you come out and hope that no one runs away." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-remember-deciding-to-become-a-writer-you-79562/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I don't remember deciding to become a writer. You decide to become a dentist or a postman. For me, writing is like being gay. You finally admit that this is who you are, you come out and hope that no one runs away." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-remember-deciding-to-become-a-writer-you-79562/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.

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Mark Haddon (born September 26, 1962) is a Novelist from England.

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