"I don't think homosexuality is a choice. Society forces you to think it's a choice, but in fact, it's in one's nature. The choice is whether one expresses one's nature truthfully or spends the rest of one's life lying about it"
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The line “society forces you to think it’s a choice” is doing heavy cultural work. It names the sleight of hand that turns difference into culpability: if it’s chosen, it can be blamed, punished, or “fixed.” Thomas doesn’t argue with abstract science so much as with the social choreography that makes people narrate their lives in someone else’s language. That’s why her payoff isn’t “be proud,” but “don’t lie.” She collapses the debate into an ethical binary that feels immediate and personal: truth versus self-erasure.
The subtext is also about cost. “Spends the rest of one’s life lying” makes closeting not a private preference but a lifelong tax exacted by stigma. Coming from a pop-cultural figure associated with approachable liberalism, the intent is persuasion through plain speech: to normalize queerness by treating concealment as the real tragedy, and authenticity as an ordinary, dignified act rather than a political stunt.
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Thomas, Marlo. (2026, January 16). I don't think homosexuality is a choice. Society forces you to think it's a choice, but in fact, it's in one's nature. The choice is whether one expresses one's nature truthfully or spends the rest of one's life lying about it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-think-homosexuality-is-a-choice-society-99508/
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Thomas, Marlo. "I don't think homosexuality is a choice. Society forces you to think it's a choice, but in fact, it's in one's nature. The choice is whether one expresses one's nature truthfully or spends the rest of one's life lying about it." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-think-homosexuality-is-a-choice-society-99508/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I don't think homosexuality is a choice. Society forces you to think it's a choice, but in fact, it's in one's nature. The choice is whether one expresses one's nature truthfully or spends the rest of one's life lying about it." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-think-homosexuality-is-a-choice-society-99508/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.






