"I finally learned to live in the present and focus only on what I want rather than what I don't want"
About this Quote
“Live in the present” is familiar self-help language, but the second clause is where the quote sharpens. “Focus only on what I want” rejects the common habit of building identity around negation: not failing, not being alone, not disappointing anyone. That’s a life engineered for defense, and it tends to produce exactly what it fears, because attention is a kind of vote. Johnson’s subtext is cognitive: the mind treats repeated “don’t” statements as data, so the very act of monitoring what you fear keeps it central. By flipping to desire, he’s not endorsing magical thinking so much as strategic thinking - selecting a target instead of shadowboxing.
The context feels like contemporary burnout culture: feeds designed to spike anxiety, productivity ideology that rewards self-critique, and a therapy-speak mainstream that’s made “boundaries” and “mindfulness” everyday nouns. Johnson’s intent is to offer a simple pivot that reads like permission: stop narrating your life as a series of threats to be managed, and start narrating it as a set of choices to pursue. The line works because it’s less about serenity than agency.
Quote Details
| Topic | Live in the Moment |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Johnson, Darren L. (2026, January 15). I finally learned to live in the present and focus only on what I want rather than what I don't want. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-finally-learned-to-live-in-the-present-and-148757/
Chicago Style
Johnson, Darren L. "I finally learned to live in the present and focus only on what I want rather than what I don't want." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-finally-learned-to-live-in-the-present-and-148757/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I finally learned to live in the present and focus only on what I want rather than what I don't want." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-finally-learned-to-live-in-the-present-and-148757/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.








