"I find, by experience, that the mind and the body are more than married, for they are most intimately united; and when one suffers, the other sympathizes"
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The line works because it smuggles compassion into a culture of stoic performance. “When one suffers, the other sympathizes” sounds tender, but it’s also tactical. Chesterfield famously coached manners and self-presentation; here he admits the limits of polish. A cracked sleep schedule, a wounded pride, a fever, an anxious thought spiral - each makes the other worse. The subtext is a warning to anyone who thinks virtue is purely mental: neglect the body and your judgment rots; indulge the mind’s torments and your health follows.
Context matters: Chesterfield wrote in an era where “nerves,” melancholy, and sensibility were becoming respectable topics among elites, even as public life demanded composure. He threads that needle by translating vulnerability into governance. The takeaway isn’t mystical unity; it’s an early, pragmatic biopsychosocial insight: if you want a steady character, you have to manage the whole system, not just the speeches you give yourself.
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| Topic | Mental Health |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Chesterfield, Lord. (2026, January 18). I find, by experience, that the mind and the body are more than married, for they are most intimately united; and when one suffers, the other sympathizes. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-find-by-experience-that-the-mind-and-the-body-16133/
Chicago Style
Chesterfield, Lord. "I find, by experience, that the mind and the body are more than married, for they are most intimately united; and when one suffers, the other sympathizes." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-find-by-experience-that-the-mind-and-the-body-16133/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I find, by experience, that the mind and the body are more than married, for they are most intimately united; and when one suffers, the other sympathizes." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-find-by-experience-that-the-mind-and-the-body-16133/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.





